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woman attractive. The better looking your woman is, the more couples that will be
interested in you two. Demonstrate to the other woman that you understand the
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swinger community and that you know what you are doing. Do this by sharing stories
about your experiences in the community. Tell them as if they are humorous stories,
but in the stories you convey how you and your woman are very sexual and exciting.
You have to find a couple that is interested in the same things you are. If you
two are interested in full swap, you have to eliminate the couples that are only there for
soft swap. You do this by talking to them about the community, and sharing
experiences. In doing so, you convey the things I talked about above, and you find if
they are interested in the same things.
It is a matter of finding a couple in which all 4 people are comfortable with
each other. And couples can be flaky. It is usually the woman that must be convinced.
The men are usually generally cooperative. Interestingly, often the man just sits back
while the woman does the scouting, selecting, and introductions. Sometimes it is the
man that flakes, and usually then because he is intimidated.
There may be times when your woman may get frustrated with the seemingly
indecisive and inconsistent behavior of couples. It is a lot harder to get 4 people to all
like each other than to get 2 people to like each other. Swingers can be very superficial.
It is mostly based on physical attraction, since there is not an emotional component.
So... How do you get things started? The typical scenario is talking over drinks.
The four people talk about the community and then share their particular preferences
and limits. When you do meet a couple that you both like, things then tend to move
along quickly. Then it's back to a bedroom.
Once in the bedroom, get the two girls going at it. Have them start kissing each
other. After they have done that for a while, then instruct them into further activity.
After they have stripped and eaten each other out, they are ready for cock. Then the
guys join in.
Be patient. Include your woman in everything you do. And remember, just
because a couple is in the community does not necessarily mean they are good lovers.
Search the web for dances and clubs in your area. Attend them and meet
people. As they get to know you, they will invite you to the large private unadvertised
dances and clubs where the beautiful people go.
"For it is when you surrender to the vulnerabilities of passion that you are
fulfilled the most." David Shade
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How to Identify the Really Worthy Ones
The first step to success is to CHOOSE WISELY!
Every man has his preferences, but to find a highly responsive woman, the
most important things to look for in a woman are: intelligence, imagination,
deservedness, and sexuality. If you find a woman with all of those traits, you are in for
one wild ride.
Intelligence is the biggest indicator of suggestibility. The more intelligent, the
more powerfully she will respond to your suggestions. Intelligence is almost
completely genetically determined. There is some aspect of environment, such as if
she came from a family that values education. And besides, intelligent women are
infinitely more interesting.
Imagination is the component that you will make use of to make things real for
her. If she has a very good imagination, you can make anything real for her. If she does
not, you are going to be continually frustrated. Imagination is usually closely related to
intelligence, but not always. Imagination seems to be determined by genetics, but can
be somewhat determined by environment. You can easily determine the imaginative
ones by simply observing if they are making real the things you are talking about.
Deservedness is what a woman believes she deserves for herself. Mark is
always harping on us for this. You have to find a woman who has a good sense of
deservedness.
If the woman does not have a good sense of deservedness, you will be forever
frustrated, your energy will be constantly drained, and the relationship is doomed. She
cannot appreciate a good man when she's got one. She will sabotage the relationship
and eventually leave for some scum that she believes she deserves. If you aren't a
psychiatrist or a therapist, there's not much you can do about it.
On the other hand, a woman who does have a good sense of deservedness will
be your best ally. She will be routing for you. She believes that she deserves to
experience wonderful pleasure, and she believes that she deserves you.
A good sense of deservedness is the opposite of a bad sense of deservedness.
(Note: everybody has A sense of deservedness.) An example of a bad sense of
deservedness is a woman who stays with a controlling man. Therefore, one of the
quickest ways to obtain much information about a woman is to note the men she
associates with.
Deservedness is entirely environmentally determined. A person's sense of
deservedness begins to develop early in life. I have found that women who had a close
relationship with their father when they were little girls have a very good sense of
deservedness. Such a woman is a 'daddy's girl.'
A 'daddy's girl' is a woman who had a very close relationship with her father
when she was a little girl. He was loving and caring. He believed in her and supported
her. He may have even taught her how to throw a baseball or throw a punch. She thus
grew up with a high self esteem, a healthy relationship with men, and a good sense of
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deservedness. She is thus emotionally healthy and believes that she deserves to be
treated well by men. Interestingly, she is also very skilled at influencing men and
making a man feel emotionally close to her.
This is in contrast to another woman who had a condescending or absent father.
Such a woman is incapable of forming a deep emotional bond with a man. She has a
bottomless pit of emotional need that can never be filled. She believes that she
deserves to be treated poorly by men, though she expects being showered with
attention and material gifts. She is often spotted in the company of men that view
women as things.
Daddy's girls also tend to be talkative. I love talkative women. They have an
opinion and they can sustain a conversation. This is in contrast to another woman who
needs to be constantly entertained.
Her relationship with her mother is also important. I have known daddy's girls
who had mothers that were total emotional basket cases and made very bad decisions
for themselves. In those cases, the young women tend to make bad decisions for
themselves. To a large extent, women tend to repeat the same successes or failures of
their mothers. Such daddy's girls display some of the typical traits of a daddy's girl,
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